The best and biggest gift you can possibly give your baby is being happy, contented and maintaining a loving relationship with the father of the baby. As the new mother you will need to include the father and let him know that he is very important to you and the baby.
Show him how to bath, change and feed the baby. BUT he also needs cuddles, kisses and praise. He is adjusting to sharing you and may feel left out and even jealous.
Try to spend time with him, EVERY DAY. A quick cup of tea, a shared joke. A smile, even when you are dog tired may be the small deeds he craves. If? When you are able to, go for a short stroll and let him show off the baby.
Be sure to do the following every day: At dinner/ before you fall asleep/ when you get home- ask your partner what was good about their day and then; what was bad/ not pleasant about their day. This helps you to keep in touch and to feel that your partner is interested in your day to day life.
If you have a trusted person willing to babysit please go out and force yourselves not to talk about the baby. Treat your outing as a date night and re-connect as a couple. Communication is very, very important. Give your partner the time and space needed to talk about fears, exhaustion and adjusting to the responsibilities of being a parent.
Dr Louise Bosoff Prinsen
*All of our information are only guidelines and are not intended to replace the advice of a professional medical specialist; we are providing information to you on a general information basis only. My Pregnancy Journey disclaims any liability for the decisions you make based on this information.
